I lived my loved songs, how about you?

Some years ago, as part of my approach to helping my clients, I developed theory the that the music we grew up with was significant in laying a path for our future experiences. It was one of those moments where it became abundantly clear to me that those songs that I attached my emotions to became a part of my life’s journey.

This is by no means a conscious action. What I mean is that I did not go out deliberately to like a song. I just found myself associating to a particular song more than another. The more passionately expressed, the greater the attachment to the song. You might recall standing in front of the mirror with a hairbrush or something similar and singing from the heart. It may be that not all words were understood, but that did not matter. It was the sentiment that was translated as an emotional experience.

As a boy growing up in the 1960’s the music available was initially limited to a few good bands or groups who populated the music charts. To give you a sense of it, there was only one chart. It was the BBC top twenty that everyone was aware of. That’s right, the top twenty! Now we are approaching a hundred different charts where the top 40 tracks are featured in different categories from R & B to Country and Western. You get the idea?

In those days it was groups like the Rolling Stones, Bob Dylan, The Beatles, Elvis Presley, Otis Reading, The Animals, The Yardbirds, Jimmy Hendrix, The Four Seasons, Cliff Richard and The Shadows, The Four Tops, The Supremes, Credence Clearwater Revival, Stevie Wonder… I could go on and on. These bands were the main influencers in the UK.

Were there is an unexpressed emotion and a song comes along that expresses it metaphorically my theory is that we attach to a greater or lesser degree to the sentiment and go on to live it. Sing enough about a broken heart and you will undoubtedly experience it.  It is your inner most kept emotions expressed outwardly in the guise of a song.

The mornings have never been the best part of my day, could it be that it is because I sung a song popularised by The Rolling Stones ‘Little Red Rooster’ who was too lazy to crow the day. Ok that might be a little out there. How about the loneliness and wasted time I felt in my life coming from Otis Reading form ‘Sitting on the Dock of the Bay’.  Maybe my antisocial attitudes where born from The Rolling stones ‘Paint it Black’ or the feeling of being unwanted from The Supremes ‘Love Child’.

In my analysis I wrote down about 15 songs that came into my life from that era only to discover that a large part of the rest of my life was spent living them.  There are many songs that I found myself associated with and experienced in my reality. It might surprise you to discover that you are to some degree still living yours.

On a happier note there was The Turtles with their ‘Happy Together’ that brought joy at the possibility of being with someone who made that possible. It really is like magic. There must be hundreds of songs that I have sung endlessly and what’s more in that era that the tracks were about 2.4 minutes long so replay was inevitable.

Have a go at remembering what made your childhood bearable and let a few tears go where necessary and, if you feel brave enough to share you’re your experience, let me know what music  fed your life journey.