No Confidence – No Personal Peace. Could you be using the wrong model?

No amount of positive thinking and positive self talk will overcome self-doubt.  This is an alarming message and one that needs to be addressed especially by  those who are anxious, fearful, and in some extreme cases terrified. Confidence is a wooly word. It does not serve to define what underpins the state that it is meant to represent. Confidence is better thought of as certainty. So...

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The eternal pessimist. Vol1 The joys of misery.

It is not easy to maintain a state of joy whilst being surrounded by people who enjoy revelling in misery. Have you noticed the ones that no matter where you take the conversation they want to bring it back on a subject that revolves around some miserable perspective. It is as if that is all they live for. But then that is what life is for them; misery = life. The eternal pessimist has...

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I just want to be normal that’s all I want just to have a normal life with normal people.

There are many occasion when clients who come to see me say they just want to be normal.  Normal!  What’s normal?  The conversation  takes a turn when we start to talk about normal and what normal looks like. It is strange that when we talk  about the concept of normal very few people are able to define something that is  easily understood and therefore not easily attainable. Often...

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Scream, shout, kick, yell and yet things stay the same.

It is sometimes the most obvious things that can go unnoticed.  We get ourselves into situations without realising that the situations were of our own making and likely to be caused by thoughtlessness,  miscommunication, same-old thinking and perhaps even wishful thinking. It seems that often we want things to be different, yet we keep repeating the same patterns and experiencing the same...

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Unfortunately his perception was faulty and misdirected his thinking.

Perception is what the mind does with what it sees.  How often we forget to check the basis of our assumptions and land up thinking something that is inaccurate, yet experience it as right and true. It is interesting that having made the decision that something is so, we often are defiant when it is suggested that we might have misconceived the idea. It is as if the mule inside of us...

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